"Often when you're hurt the tendency is to move back…inside shelter of the shell, and yet, when you do, you really squander all your possibilities. Some people arrest and freeze there. they never come forth again with the same urgency or innocence that they had before they got hurt. "
IF you give in to that, (freezing in a state of defensive protection) you can really limit your life to a very lonesome edge where nothing real will ever happen to you again and your anxious and defensive and always on the watch for the next series of hurt…when you do that-go out there expecting it, you actually are magnetizing it..giving off, almost a herd signal."The inner beauty in the soul comes forth only when you have looked into the wounds, found out what hurts, and is so scary to get to. In doing that, a beauty of bravery and love gushes out, instead of blood, and the wisdom from all that we learn, and experience and watched comes into play and none of the original hurts and fears are remotely what we had built them up by the very act of trying to protect ourselves…ohhhh the irony.
He goes on to explain how just the opposite- when you gain your poise and confidence and stand in yourself with compassion (in a non-threatening way)…hurts don’t even come within your stratosphere.
“Freedom is: that poise of a soul at one with a life that honors and engages its creative possibility...Its really about the courage to become who you are, and not to fit in to the accepted kind of patterns....
There is also an inner gravity in the mind that constantly drags us towards the herd. And we want to fit in at any price. And you know life is too short to pay such a huge price for something so banal. If there is an old dream at all in the heart, any urgency, any passion, any calling towards horizons no one else is interested in. I’ve never seen anyone who took huge risks for growth who wasn’t rewarded a thousand times. "
There is a strong motivational quality in those words. It actually departs, quite greatly from the systems and encouragement of many organized religions and churches I've experienced, and rather celebrates the very beautiful and often discouraged, idea of "differentness."
My own children often LEARN that pressure to be the "Same" as other kids, or "fit in." as if there is a major premium on it..past not getting teased by the other kids getting the same pressure. I can live with that if they can, but man, do I want them to learn sooner than I did about that one.